Unraveling Social Media Dynamics: Ignored, Unfollowed, and Emotional Resilience

Ever wondered why someone who once ignored you on social media suddenly wants to reconnect? Or felt the sting of being unfollowed and grappled with the emotional aftermath? This episode of the Talkers Podcast, Unscripted, takes you on an emotional journey through the maze of social media relationships. We share personal anecdotes about friendly gestures misunderstood and the turbulent feelings that arise from being ignored or unfollowed. We also dissect the often painful internal conflict of wanting to ask questions without sounding angry, and the vital role of effective communication in resolving misunderstandings.

Navigating the complex world of social interactions online can be bewildering and emotionally taxing. We reflect on the subtle cues of body language and other signals that indicate when someone doesn't want to engage in a conversation. This episode dives deep into the frustration and confusion of being ignored, only to have those same individuals attempt to reconnect later. We explore the need for closure and the struggle to understand why people distance themselves, all while trying to respect their boundaries. 

In a world brimming with competition and negativity, emotional resilience is essential. We discuss the importance of shielding oneself from toxic interactions, whether in personal relationships or professional settings. Strategies for managing these interactions, including the role of customer service in creating a positive atmosphere, are brought to the forefront. Through it all, we emphasize the importance of self-care and standing up for oneself by mirroring the treatment received. Join us for an honest exploration of maintaining positive relationships and fostering respect in a judgmental society.

Chapters

• 0:57 Unraveling Social Media Unfollows
• 13:51 Navigating Social Media Relationships
• 25:57 Responding to Social Media Ignores
• 31:02 Navigating Toxic Social Interactions
• 40:35 Dealing With Unfollows and Attitudes
• 49:53 Cutting Out Negative Social Interactions

Transcript

Joe: 0:58

What's up. What's up. What's up everybody, what's up? This is Thee Talkers Podcast, Unscripted. My name is Joe. How's everybody doing out there? I just want to thank everybody, all your listeners out there and the new listeners that just joined us and found us on the podcast platforms. I want to thank you all and all your downloads. Thank you for all your downloads.

Joe: 1:24

It's a beautiful day today in Los Angeles, california, 73 degrees in the highs. You know me, I don't like the heat, but I could deal with the 73 degrees. Anyone, how's everybody doing out there? I hope everybody's having a safe day and you know there's things I got to say.

Joe: 1:52

You know it's not like you know you want to ask questions why? But it's not because you're pissed and if I do mention it, not I'm not. I'm not mad or anything. I'm just like wondering why you know that. Have you ever happened to you? Hasn't that ever happened to you?

Joe: 2:09

You want to ask questions, but it's not because you're angry. You want to explain, to explain to that person that why you know things like that. It's not because you're angry, but you want to like let yourself, you want to talk about it, but you know and like that. It's not because you're angry but you want to like, let yourself, you want to talk about it, but you know, and the people out there that listen to it, they're gonna think that you're, you're upset about it, you're hurt and all that stuff. Don't let it get to you. It's not that, um, I'm hurt or anyone that's wants to talk about. It's not because they're hurt, they just want to talk about it. It's not because they're hurt, they just want to wonder why.

Joe: 2:46

What was the reason with that attitude? What was the reason why they don't want to talk to you? What is the reason why they're too angry with you and what is the reason why they ignore you? What is the reason they're acting like that? I mean, I'm not, I don't, I really don't care.

Joe: 2:58

I'm the type of person that just don't like to bother people. You know, I mean you just want to ask questions like why? You know, it's not all about because of me, you know, I just, I mean, you want to figure out, like do you you're wondering why? Right, but you have to know they have to give it an answer. Do you make the person feel uncomfortable, you know, or do you make the person? Do you annoy the person? You know, I don't know. You know People out there don't really know what's really going on with this person's mind. You know You're trying to figure out why. It's not because you're angry, you're wondering, like you're just wondering what you did wrong and because I think they have to explain the reason why they don't want to talk to you, the reason why they ignore you, the reason why they lash at you or the reason why they feel bothered by you or they feel uncomfortable about you. You have to know why. It's not because it's bothering me or because I'm angry. It's not because I'm mad. I'm overthinking it. You're just trying to wonder why I go.

Joe: 4:13

There's people out there they ignore you and you have social media, like you have Instagram, facebook, tiktok and all that social networking, right. But it's like if you have friends on Instagram, right. And all of a sudden you know you thought you were a cool person. You know You're trying to walk in. You know you're walking day to work or to school, whatever you may be at. You know that stuff and you know I'm the type of person I don't care. You know, okay, you don't want to talk to me, it's fine. You don't want to talk to me, you don't want to say hi. Fine, I say hi to them. You know I'm trying to be nice. I'm not trying to be nice, I am nice and, um, I'm being nice to them, saying hi.

Joe: 4:52

Sometimes they take it all like out of content, like, oh, he's a weirdo, he's always too nice. You know what I mean it? It's like retail. When you go to retail, when you go to a customer, that's your job. You got to be nice. You got to treat the person real right. You got to treat the person with a good attitude. A customer is going to come to you and say it wants an item. You got to be friendly. You got to communicate with them and say you know, okay, I'll find an item for you and this and that, right. Well, this is the way I learned from retail. You know you got to treat people the way you want to be treated. You know you got to treat them with respect and that's what I do.

Joe: 5:32

I try to treat people with respect, trying to be nice, trying to be cool. You know, like you know now, it's bad to be cool and not to. It's bad to have good mannerisms and all that stuff these days, because they take it out of context. They take it like you're too nice or you're too gay or there's something about you. They start judging. You know there's something off about this guy. There's something odd about Joe. You know he's always too nice, he's always smiling and all that stuff. You know, I mean there's a lot of judgment. You know a lot of judgment, a lot of people.

Joe: 6:08

You know it's like I've got friends on. It's not the first time. Well, I call them acquaintances. They're not really truly my friends. I call them acquaintances because, you know, I just know them from work or school and this and that you know, and they ask for my Instagram and they ask me for my Facebook and all that stuff. Right, I mean I'm not really hardly on like before, but now, since I got my podcast, I only put my um, like my promos and all that stuff. When I'm going to put my next um episode, that's coming up things like that.

Joe: 6:40

I don't use it no more. Like to take pictures of where I'm at, where I go, take pictures of food or where all it's a huge fucking plate of food. You know who wants to see that. You know, I mean I don't do that anymore. I used to do that, but I don't do that anymore. I started looking at it. What's the point taking pictures of your food, your big plate, and you're sending it to Instagram? What are you going to get? You know I don't do that anymore. I used to do that. It never made sense for me. Whoever does that? You know I don't really go to Instagram anymore take pictures. So if I go to like Disneyland and all things like that or somewhere like Hawaii, yeah, I'll take pictures. You know where I'm at, what I'm doing. But I don't do that. I really don't do that. I just focus on my podcast, our podcast, and what I put. I promote my show and all that stuff and that's what I do, but, like you know, for my podcast.

Joe: 7:37

But the thing is that, um, you wonder, people are like unfollow you in social media. You know, like on instagram I got because it's not the first thing that happened to me, okay, and sometimes you feel like you're, you're, am I a dick or an asshole or something like that. You know because, or maybe did I come off too strong or what did I do, or do I make you feel uncomfortable? I mean because people like that when they unfollow you on on Instagram, all of a sudden you did something wrong to them. They got mad or they got offended or something like that. They took it to the heart. They, um, they really um took something that you know that that really that that I got offended. You know, maybe I offended somebody and I don't even know what I did. You know, I don't know what I said. Maybe I say something and it doesn't come out right, but I don't mean it to say it like that.

Joe: 8:32

But, yeah, some, some, some people, when they, you have them on Instagram, all that stuff, you, you following them and they follow you and all of a sudden they, they unfollow you. Like you, you're wondering what did I do wrong to this for this person to um, to unfollow me? You know, um, was it the, the, a partner that didn't like me, or you know, told them to not, to told that person not to um, not to follow me anymore, unfollow me, or something. You know, things like that. It's not the first time, um, sometimes it's. It's, it's not painful, but it's like you're wondering why. It's not because you're mad.

Joe: 9:11

I'm explaining what the situation is. I'm not upset about it and I'm just like curious about why the person follow me. Well, it's only not one. It's maybe like 10 that unfollow me on Instagram, tiktok and all that social networks. Sometimes I'm not really on the social networks. I'm only doing like I said again. I'm only doing it just to promote my podcast. I'm not in my original Instagram anymore, like my full Instagram. I'm on my podcast Instagram now and I'm not in my original Instagram anymore like my full Instagram. I'm on my podcast Instagram now and I'm not with that anymore. I'm thinking of deleting it now. So, yeah, so I'm just like wondering why Is the reason why the persons you know unfollow me?

Joe: 9:59

You know, was it the partners that tell them to unfollow me? You know, was it the you know the partners that tell them to unfollow me? Or did I did something wrong? Because, you know, sometimes you got to know because maybe you're, maybe I'm making them feel uncomfortable. When I'm walking, when I'm going to work or going to school or something like that, or going to the store or something like that I go. Do I make you feel uncomfortable for you to unfollow me? Or did I say something that you're mad, or did I do something that angered you? So that's why they unfollow me and they block me, because I'm an embarrassment. Who knows, I don't know what the goals are in mind. I mean, talk about mental issues, right? I mean, that's what I could think of.

Joe: 10:45

Usually, when they unfollow you, it's because they're mad or something. They're mad at you or something. You did something to them, you know, for me, I'm just trying to understand what did I do, because I'm usually not the type of guy that goes telling people off. You know, I'm not like that. And a guy that goes telling people off, you know, I'm not like that. And the funny part is there's people that have friends. They're friends, they treat them like shit and they still have them and they're still following. How come you don't unfollow them? But you unfollow me and I'm the nicest guy. You know I'm. I'm being nice to everybody and they know it too. Some of you out there know I'm really a nice guy, you know.

Joe: 11:20

And I added a person on my Instagram like two times, because this person has like, maybe like two accounts, three accounts on Instagram, and I added the person you know and then they blocked me. They go, why did this person block me Two times, three times? I go, damn. What did I do to deserve this? I mean, I'm trying to be a friend here. You know I'm not trying to pick up on you or I'm not trying to. I'm not trying to. You know, get with you. I'm just want to be friends. Add you on my instagram. You know you're trying to like, ask questions. You know I want to answer. I mean I need an answer. You know, you know I mean you guys are. I mean I need an answer. You know. You know I mean you guys are understand what I'm saying. I know all of you listeners out there. I want to know if it's happening to you.

Joe: 12:07

They unfollow you. You're trying to wonder why you know like that. You know, did you say something that offended them, or did they get mad or something which? Because I really didn't know what I did? You know to be honest. You know, to be honest, you know you're being cool with them. You're like friends. You know you thought you were cool. You guys were like being friends. You talk at work or school. You're all talkative. Oh, yeah, well, yeah, you guys are laughing. Oh, can I have your Instagram? I go, yeah, oh sure, yeah, can I have my Instagram? So they add you and they follow you. Okay, yeah, through all that fucking problem and all that trouble, they unfollow you and then after that you find out later, a week later, that you got unfollowed, you go what did I do?

Joe: 12:56

It enters your mind, doesn't it? It enters my mind. I go, I mean it doesn't. I mean okay. I mean, if you don't want to be my friend, okay, fine, you know, but it's in this day and age. You know social media people, these days they take it seriously. Okay, I don't, I don't care, you don't want to be my friend? You don't want to say hi to me when we walk? You want to ignore me? Fine, I'll do the same thing. If it bothers you to say hi to you, okay, I won't say hi to you. You don't want to be bothered? I won't bother you. That's the kind of person I am.

Joe: 13:25

If you don't want to, because sometimes you know, I sense it when you're walking and sometimes they turn around, they wait, they pause and they will let you go first, so that way they don't make conversation with you. You could sense that. I sense that when I'm well me, I sense that I get ignored. I mean it doesn't bother me, okay, all right, you don't want to talk to me? Fine, it's not going to break my, it's not going to hurt me.

Joe: 13:52

I mean, I'm just noticing the towels, I'm explaining how I notice things, the body language and all that stuff, explaining how I notice things. You know the body language and all that stuff, and it's like, okay, you don't want to talk to me, fine, it's okay, I'm not going to get hurt, I'm not going to. I see, you don't want to be bothered, you don't want me to make a, you don't want to make a conversation with me, that's fine. Okay, maybe I'm an idiot, I don't know, but there's some people that you could sense that and when, when you're you're, they see you, they kind of like, stop a little bit and then they like, or they wait, they hesitate and they let you go first and to walk. I didn't want to make conversation with you. You know.

Joe: 14:38

I know I'm right, because you know it happens to me sometimes. You know, and I'll go, all right, I guess you don't want to hang out and you know I mean, at least make a conversation. It's early in the morning, you know I get it and you know it's too early in the morning to talk and make a conversation, but but, um, sometimes, um, you could sense it. You could sense when you're you're, you're bothering that person or you're making that person uncomfortable. Maybe when the person unfollows me, maybe I make them uncomfortable, maybe I talk too much, maybe it's my voice that annoys them. You know, I don't know, who knows.

Joe: 15:11

I'm just trying to get some answers here, you know. But it's just the way it is. I mean, I'm the type of guy that I don't care, I just need answers why. I mean, I'm the type of guy that I don't care, I just need answers why. You know, trying to answer the question, why I just need that answer and that's it. Okay, all right, I won't bother you If you tell me what I did. Okay, I won't be your friend. I'll block you. Well, block me. I'll stay out of your hair your way, I'll stay out of your way. Fine, okay. But then this is always happens.

Joe: 15:48

You do all that and then, after they start coming to you, they don't, they want to talk to you out of a sudden, and that's when you know there's something wrong. I mean, they start talking to you out of a sudden. They haven't talked to you for a while, right? They're all ignoring you. You're right there and you say what's up. They don't say what's up Because I don't know what's going on with their mind and they don't want to be bothered and all that stuff. When you do it to them, they get all mad. But when it comes to that point when they need you that's when they start talking to you They'll go oh, this person probably needs something.

Joe: 16:18

This person wants probably something wrong with that person, maybe that person's hurt, maybe the person's feeling down and all that stuff. Now they want to talk to you, they want to, like, stick with you and all that stuff. And you know what? I'm the type of guy that you do that to me. That's it. That's it. That's it.

Joe: 16:43

I mean, it took you this long to. You blocked me, you unfollowed me, you said a lot of things about me. I'm just going to say you know what? I took it like you don't want to, you don't want to conversate with me. Fine, okay, I don't. Okay, you don't want to be bothered, you don't want to, you don't want, you don't want to be bothered, you don't want to conversate with me. I make you uncomfortable. So that's the way I felt. That's the way I think in my mind.

Joe: 17:08

I'm thinking maybe I make the person feel uncomfortable, so I'll just leave that person alone. Maybe I'm too annoying. That's why they get mad. They don't like me or something like that, or um, they don't want to talk, they don't have time to talk. You know, I'm not trying to be I mean, I'm not trying to be a narcissist here, but, um, I'm just asking the question why? Why do people do that? You know, I mean, the only reason why people do that? Just because they're pissed on something, they're mad or something they can't stand. You and they I took it like I might have done something wrong for it for for them to unfollow a person on instagram or tiktok or anything like that.

Joe: 17:56

It's serious, it's serious, it's serious. I mean, it was like maybe like 10 of them, maybe more. They unfollowed me. Maybe, I don't know, maybe I got a bad reputation or they're slandering me and they believe in the slander about me and they unfollowed me. Maybe it's the reason because they don't like me. You know, I don't know. I take it like that, you know, I mean, it's fine, you know, I'm not hurt about it, but at least tell me why. You know, at least tell me why. What was the reason? You know, but they don't want to tell you because they'll be embarrassed to tell you what the reason is.

Joe: 18:44

I'm the type of guy that doesn't like to bother anybody. I know how it is. When you go there, you're on your own. You want to be by yourself. You don't want to be bothered. You don't want to train anybody. You don't want to teach somebody. You don't want to conversate with somebody. It want to teach somebody you don't want to. You know, conversate with somebody, you know it's fine. Okay, I get it. I get it, but I'm the type of person that does it back. Okay, but don't be coming telling everybody that I'm the one that started it, because I didn't start it. You're the one that started it.

Joe: 19:21

I'm just doing what you guys want to do. I'm doing what you like to treat others. You like to treat others the way you want to treat them. I'll do it the same way. You want to treat me bad. I'll treat you bad, because that's what you Want to Represent. You want to Be treated that way.

Joe: 19:38

That's the way I am, because sometimes I really don't say anything. You want to be treated that way? Okay, that's the way I am, because sometimes, you know, I really don't say anything. I hold back a lot, you know, because I don't like to make conflicts. Okay, I don't like to be against anybody, I don't like to hate anybody, I like to get along with everybody. I'm the reverse I like to get along with everybody, I like to make friends, I like to talk to them.

Joe: 20:03

But I know a certain point when you talk a lot, when you, you know, when you you're there, you could sense the person that they're getting bothered. Oh, this guy's talking too much. You know, you're trying to find a way, they're trying to find a way to escape my conversation. Okay, all right, I resent their body language, the way they move. So, okay, I won't bother them, I'll just leave from there. Okay, I'll make a short conversation and I'm out. You know, that's the way I am, I don't know, but some people out there, they get really aggravated and sometimes you know, like you could just do, you could be working, you could be at school, you could. You know, I don't know, it's just, I just like to ask. That, I mean, it makes me want to ask that person's.

Joe: 20:53

You know, why did you unfollow me? Why did you block me? I don't know, because you know what that person unfollowed me. Now I have to block that person because I think that person doesn't want, um, nothing to do, to be my friend. That's the way I look at it. So I block that person. But if the person comes up to me and say, why did you block me? Well, why did you unfollow me first? You're the one that started it, you're. I mean, I know it's kind of childish, it's kind of childish. It's kind of childish to do this, but it's childish to do this, you know. So that person started it. You know you blocked me. I mean you unfollow me, so I block you.

Joe: 21:32

I guess you don't want to be my friend. You know, I don't know what I did to you for you to unfollow me, so I blocked you. I guess you don't want to see, see my, um, my instagram. You don't want nothing to do with my instagram. So you know, I, I blocked you. I'll do it back.

Joe: 21:46

Okay, why are you blaming me that I blocked you? You don't want to start it, you know? I mean, no, I mean I'm not being hurt about it, I'm just doing what you want to do, you know, is that what you want? I mean you don't want nothing to. You don't want to be my friend. You don't want to be, uh, my acquaintance? Okay, fine, I mean I thought we were cool, my uh, a student or a co-worker or your employee, whatever you know. We were cool at first and all of a sudden, you know, they go, I just found out, you don't follow me.

Joe: 22:21

You're like why, okay, I'll block you, you know, I mean I thought we were getting along, but it's just that I guess I mean I don't get it. I just don't get it. Why? I mean Persons like shit, friends with them. They're still friends with them. They're still that person's still following in the social media networks, you know.

Joe: 22:46

And right here, like they said, the nice guys finish last. Right, that's true, the nice guys do finish last, but that's all right. I mean, it's all right, I could deal with it. I'm just Explaining the situation. I just want to know Answers why? I mean, I just want to know the answer why that person's Unfollowed me and blocked me, you know. So I mean I don't get it, I just don't get it. And the ones that they're getting treated like crap on their friend's point of view, they still have them, they're still following that person and, yeah, I'm the one that gets blocked and gets unfollowed. I don't understand that. I do not understand that, you know, but it's the way it is. I guess you know it's like I guess nice guys do finish last.

Joe: 23:48

But I know all you listeners out there are going through the same shit. I know I'm not the only one, but don't you ever figure that you want to know answers. You know what did you do? What did I do? What did you did to that person for them to get mad at you, to unfollow you? You know you need answers, but I think it's too late already. It's already too late Now. I don't really care. I blocked that person already.

Joe: 24:18

So if they'll ever come up and the funny part is, this person goes up to me like if nothing ever happens, oh, you know where they have you at. And I told the person well, they have me in the trailers I have to say something, because I'm not a dick, I'm not an asshole. If I was an asshole, I would ignore that person. I don't know that person for a long time. I never know that person exists. I could do that, but I can't. I mean just by ignoring the person. It hurts me. You know it's like a sin.

Joe: 24:51

I have to talk to people. I gotta learn. Learn about people. I gotta know about people. I gotta get to know them, for them, for me to judge them. Because there's people out there they don't know the person, they just judge them, just like that oh, he looks gay, or he looks um weird, he looks creepy, he looks all. You don't even know the person and you're talking crap. I mean if, like I say again, I got, I got all like advice.

Joe: 25:18

When someone's talking crap about another person and they're telling you about that person, this person, this, this person, that this girl, this, this person, that, just imagine what they're saying about you. You know it's ridiculous, man, I mean me. I just want to know answers. Why did you block me? Why did you unfollow me? Did I do something that offended you? Did I make you mad? What did I do? That's the question. That's the question.

Joe: 25:58

I mean, I'm just trying to be cool, I'm just trying to make friends. If you don't want to be my friends, well, fine, I'm not going to fucking cry about it. I mean, you got to give me a reason why. But you know what? You don't have to give me a reason. What am I saying? You don't have to give me a reason If you don't want to.

Joe: 26:18

This is why, sometimes, when I'm walking and they, they, um, this person used to say what's up all the time, and all that stuff right, and all of a sudden they ignore you. Why? I don't understand, because you know what they're. They're they're giving you bad vibes at school, at work, they're giving you bad rumors about you. They're saying bad stuff about you because it's weird, because you go to your school, you go to your work, whatever you may be it could be anybody you, could you walk up to this person? They've been saying you hi all the time. You know. They've been saying hi, hi, what's up, what's up? You'll be talking real cool and all of a sudden, out of the blue, this person's start, they stop talking to you and you wonder why? Wait a minute? Why is this person stop talking to me out of a sudden? Is it because a person that don't follow me um, don't follow me told that person that ignored me that you know I did this and this because I really don't know what I did, but all of a sudden, this person stopped ignoring me. I go okay, all right, so I did it back. I did it back. So you want to play hardball? I'll play hardball too. All right, that's the way I am Not because I'm hurt.

Joe: 27:34

You know you did it first. You did it first. You threw up. You give me your medicine. I'll give back your medicine back. It's going to hurt more.

Joe: 27:43

I'm 51 years old. What could go wrong? There's some people out there that ignore me. So many times I've been ignored, I'm really used to it. I'm really used to it. I'm used to it. You can ignore me all you want and I don't give a fuck. You ignored me way in the beginning and I'm gonna ignore you again.

Joe: 28:05

You've been ignoring me since the beginning. You never talked to me. You never said hi, you never said this. You never get to know me. You never got to know me and it's not gonna bother me. You know you said yeah, you said hi once in a while. You said yeah, you said hi once in a while. You said yeah, we talked, but in the beginning you never talked to me.

Joe: 28:23

You know you got to put it In that perspective. You know In the beginning you never talked to me. So you know I put it to my mind. You know what. This person never talked to me. You know the person never existed, existed to me Since you know. All of a sudden, the person said what's up, started talking to me. So okay, but then I go back to the past and my mentality I go. You know what it's like? I never met her anyway.

Joe: 28:46

The person was ignoring me in the first place. The person never talked to me in the first place. So let's stick to that. Let's stick to that. I have to act like that because they act like that with me. If they act like that with you, you got to act back with them. That's my advice. Give them the same treatment. Because let me tell you one thing, they're thinking they're hurting you. It'll sting.

Joe: 29:18

It depends how long you've been around, how long you have the emotions, because some people don't know how to handle emotions. And you know getting ignored and all that stuff. I've been ignored all the time. I'm like Clark Kent, you know, like going in there they think you're an oddball and this, and that you know. So you know you feel like. You know you're really used to it. I'm really used to it. I'm really used to being ignored, you know. But it's what it is. But it's not because I'm being a narcissist, it's just that you have to do it back to them. You know it's only right. You know it's only right. It's only right to do it back.

Joe: 29:57

You know, because they're angry at something, they're mad at something, they're mad at something, they're mad at you or something they're like. You know, I don't know. You could sense it. You know, you could sense their mentality, the way they are, their body language. You could tell, like when they give you a snotty attitude or they give you, they talk to you, but all of a sudden they stop talking to you, they ignore you. Like wait, wait, you were cool the next minute, you were saying you're friendly the next day, and then the following day you're ignoring me. So let me do it back to you, let me see how you feel, see how it works, see how it feels to be ignored. But the person didn't like it. They didn't like the taste of their own medicine. You know, I mean, I hope you understand what I'm saying, because I'm not the only one that's going. It's happening, it's happening everywhere. I just want, I want to spread the word to how to do it. Do it back to them, you know, do it back to them. You know, do it back to them.

Joe: 31:02

You got to put a shield on you. You got to protect your emotions and your feelings. You got to protect it. You know you have to protect your feelings Because if you don't protect your feelings, if you don't shield yourself, you're going to make it control you. You're gonna get outbursts and you're gonna say a lot of things that it's gonna be so hateful. You gotta like just ignore it. Just ignore it, don't pay attention to it. Just people are gonna tell you things. Just ignore it.

Joe: 31:32

I sometimes, when they tell me things on on when I'm at work, I ignore it and then they ask you hey, didn't you pay attention? What, what I'm telling you? I go no, I don't remember when you said that it's like they want the attention. If you pay attention to them, you're giving them more fire, you're adding gasoline to them and the more you add to them, the more you give them the attention, the more they're going to give it to you. That's why I ignore them. I ignore them. I ignore them and it pisses them off even more Because they do it to you. If they do it to you, do it to them, do it back to them, no matter they could be, if it's a girl and she's attractive and all that.

Joe: 32:12

You know what? There's many girls out there. There's many girls out there, attractive women out there. There's a lot of them, but maybe that person is not. You know you want to get with that person. It's, you know, maybe that's not the one. You know you got to. Let your take out, let don't let your feelings get in the way. Just shield yourself, protect yourself, because there's a lot of, there's a lot, a lot, a lot of hatred out there, a lot of anger out there.

Joe: 32:47

You could be the coolest one. You know, like they say, the ones are really, really nice. Those are the ones you got to look out for. The ones are really like quiet and all that stuff and they taking all the pain and all that stuff. They're taking all the shit, you all that stuff. They're taking all the shit. You got to really have thick skin, to be honest. You really got to have thick skin and it's a tough word.

Joe: 33:06

Out there there's some people that get really really sentimental with things like this. You know it's good, it's people are. It's a tough crowd out there. It's really a tough crowd out there. You tough crowd out there. You gotta, sometimes you gotta impress them. You know. Just don't do it for them, do it for yourself, just mind your own business. Go out there and just work, go to school, whatever. What do you? Whatever your trade is okay.

Joe: 33:32

Whatever you're doing out there, just pay attention to yourself. If you want that person, if you want that girl, you want that person. If you want that girl, you want that guy. Whoever it is, doesn't matter Whoever it is, give it time. I mean, if they give you a snotty attitude, I don't know If they ignore you, just do the same thing. I mean, I will do the same thing.

Joe: 33:57

You know, people are so wicked. Okay, love is cold. Now Love is cold. Do the same thing. You know, people are so wicked. Okay, love is cold. Now Love is cold. There's no more love, no more. Everybody's just angry. Everybody envies one another.

Joe: 34:09

Everybody's too competitive to everybody. Everybody wants to be better than one. Everybody wants to be better than everybody. You know, they want to like become. They're so competitive. It's a competitive world out there. That's what I'm trying to say. It's a really competitive world. Everybody wants to be better than everybody. Everybody wants to tell everybody what to do. You know, I'm just being honest, like if they're hearing my podcast and they're hearing me, me what I'm saying, and they ignore me tomorrow, I don't give a fuck.

Joe: 34:44

You know I don't give a fuck. You did it way before. Well, I'm gonna care again. It's not gonna bother me no more. It bothered me before, but not anymore. You know what I'm saying.

Joe: 34:58

If you walk by, you don't say hi before, but not anymore. You know what I'm saying. If you walk by you don't say hi, well, you're the one with the problem. You know, because I used to work in retail. I used to get along with a lot of customers. You know I would talk to them.

Joe: 35:15

You have to play that role. You know, and that's what I do at work. You got to play that role to be nice and all that stuff. That's what the job wants. That's what the job wants. It's in the policy. You got to treat your customers or your employees right. You got to. You know you got to understand them. You got to like be there. You know like. You know you got to talk to them real good and conversate with them and make them feel welcome. If you don't make them feel welcome, they're going to get fucking, oh fuck. They're going to feel bad. They're going to feel hurt. They're not going to want to go to the store anymore because that one salesperson or the retail person giving them an attitude and they're going to go to the manager and complain about that person. Or for instance, for me I was working in retail If I was rude to the customer, of course the customer is going to complain to the manager because of my attitude and then that person is not going to want me in that store. I'm going to make that person uncomfortable. So sometimes you have to play that role to be well, I'm not playing that role. That's the way I am.

Joe: 36:24

I'm not trying to sound fake here. I don't know if I'm mixing up. I'm contradicting myself. But sometimes I mean there's people out there that don't want to conversate with people. You don't have to like me, you don't have to talk to me. But that's I mean. Like me, I like to talk to people, I like to be nice with people, I like to make friends, you know. But you don't have to be my friend. You could just at least talk to me and say something, you know. But you know, if you don't want to talk to me, fine, I don't care, that's you. But there People that they're fake. I'm trying to say is that there's people. They go to their jobs or they go to school, they try to act fake, they're trying to be like your friend, but they're not.

Joe: 37:06

And then later on you start getting backstabbed everywhere, from left to right. They start bashing you, they start slandering you, they start saying things so that other people could be against you. You know, that's how the world is now these days. You know. But sometimes you have to do it back to them something. I mean, I know I'm an, I'm a cool person, nice guy and all that stuff. You know, I think I am, I know I am, I don't. I shouldn't say I think I should, I know I am. It's crazy because the more you know you're a nice guy, you're trying to treat everybody I am, I know I am. I shouldn't say I think I know I am. It's crazy because the more you know you're a nice guy, you're trying to treat everybody right, you get bashed on. You know you start hey, man, is that guy gay? That guy's weird. Or they start bashing you just because you're too nice. Oh, it doesn't say nothing because he's scared Scared of what I'm just going with, what the policy is telling me.

Joe: 38:03

You know what the policy is telling me, to how to treat people. And I treat the people like if they were my family. You know that's the way I am. If you don't like it, well fuck. What can I do to impress you? I'm not trying to impress you anyways. I'm just trying to do my job and just get out of there and go home early. That's it, plain and simple. And they don't like you for that. They don't like you for that, because they know it's not bothering you. You just do your hours and just go home, that's it. But maybe that's what's triggering them, I don't know. And then I know for a fact when they hear this, they're going to say oh, joe's mad, joe's angry.

Joe: 38:53

He was explaining it in his podcast. He's all hurt, he's all feeling no, it's not that I just want the answer. Why Give me an answer? He's all feeling no, it's not that I just want the answer. Why Give me an answer? I want questions here. I'm answering you the questions, but I need your answer.

Joe: 39:06

Why did you guys block me? Why did you guys unfollow me? What did I do wrong? What did I do to offended you? What did I do? Do I make you feel uncomfortable? That's what I'm trying to figure out, but I'm never going to get that answer. You know, fuck you, I'm never going to get that answer, because they're probably embarrassed by it, because it's childish.

Joe: 39:32

And why are you answering my fucking Instagram? For you know, if I would have known you were going to do that, I should have not just given my Instagram page. And now it's like, because I got like, maybe like two accounts Under my regular name, but if that person adds me on the other one, I'm just going to. I'm not going to follow that person. It's really too late, but if I would have done that, I would have made a big deal out of it. You know, oh, fuck me right. But if I would have done that, I would have made a big deal out of it. You know, oh, fuck me right. Yeah, they blame it on me. I'm the one that's the bad guy. I'm the one that did it. They're the ones that are playing victim.

Joe: 40:17

Well, joe blocked me. I guess he didn't want to be my friend. You're the one that unfollowed me first. So I guess I felt like you know what I made you uncomfortable. I did something that offended you, so I blocked you. I guess you don't want anything to know about my existence. So I, okay, I blocked you.

Joe: 40:36

And now when I go to work or school, I'm going to just you know what. I guess this person can't stand me or something, or this person doesn't like me, this person can't tolerate me. Maybe I aggravate that person. I don't know. I don't know what goes with that person's mind. I want answers. I want answers and if it's a stupid answer, I go are you serious? Just because of that? You know, just because of that. I mean, if I did something that offended you or I got you mad, I'm sorry, whatever I did, you know. Or the person knows what I did, I don't know, you know if I offended you or got you mad, or if you're listening to me right now on my podcast, well, you know what. I'm sorry, whatever I did, but I'm right there, it's done.

Joe: 41:35

I take it like you know you don't want no friendship, you know, you know. I take it like I felt like I'm a creep, you know, or a pervert or some shit, or I don't know, or a fucking monster, a little ugly troll or some shit, I don't know. I mean this is the I don't know. I mean this is the best I can explain it. I'm not mad, I'm not angry, I like to get along with everybody. I like to get along with everybody. I don't like to discriminate everybody. I don't like to ruin everybody's reputation. They do that to themselves.

Joe: 42:24

Okay, I just trying to figure out. You know things. You know I want answers, you know, but I'm never going to get it because it's done. You know, the respect is gone. I don't know. I mean I'm trying to respect everybody but just for doing that, that's disrespecting. You know I take it that way.

Joe: 42:50

I don't know how you guys out there, how will you guys take it? How would you guys take it out there? If you guys give me that answer, how will you guys take it? And let me know, send me a message after my show notes. If you go to my show notes, at the end there's a send message button right there. You could type it in and tell me what, what you feel, what's your take on this?

Joe: 43:11

You know, what would you do? Would you ignore that person? Will you still talk to that person? Would would it make you less? Would it make you less than a person to ignore that person? You know, just because they unfollowed you, what do you think? I mean, I think I should just ignore that person because I'm feeling like I bother that person or something like that. You know, that's what I'm thinking. That's my mentality Just leave the person alone. You know, if you really care so much, you will leave that person alone. You know, if you really care so much, you will leave that person alone. If you really love that person, you will leave that person alone. You won't even bother with that person. Just you know what that person is probably happy, being by themselves. They're maybe happily married. Whatever, I don't know what goes through their heads. I'll just leave them alone. I don't want to bother that person.

Joe: 44:03

They give you attitudes. Have you ever had that problem? When you try to talk to that person, they give you an attitude Like why you know? And then when you answer back, they make a big deal out of it and they go tell their principal or their dean office or your employer or boss. They tell hey, joe gave me a bad attitude. I don't know. He has a bad attitude and they're trying to pay it in on you. They're trying to make it like you're the bad guy.

Joe: 44:30

I go, wait a minute, hold it, hold it, hold it. You're the one that gave me an attitude first. It looks like you want to be treated that way, so I'm going to treat you that way. The way you treat me with a bad attitude, I'm going to give you a bad attitude. I'm going to give you a bad attitude too. I'm going to give you a bad attitude also as well. The way you treat me, I'm going to do it back. So don't be crying to your superior boss or your principal, your dean, whoever. Don't be crying, because I'm the one that gave you that bad attitude too. You're the one that started it. I mean, I'm sorry to. I'm like.

Joe: 45:08

We're like kids, you know, like you know. Once you grow up, you know I'm just trying to do my work, trying to do get my work done and or trying to conversate with everybody, trying to make friends and know you make friends. They give you attitudes. You know things like that. I'm just trying to be a communicative guy. But when you do it back to them, they start acting like it was your fault, that I'm the one that started it. They want to look good. They want to make me look bad. You you know, but in reality, they're the ones that are the bad ones. They're the bad apples.

Joe: 45:47

These are the people that come in late from work, from school, and they don't come to their school on time. They don't attend to school. They miss days of school and they need to go to school, but they miss the days school and and they need to go to school, but they miss the days and when, like when they go to work, they gotta be worked, like you know, certain days and they never show up to work. They gotta call out. You know, sometimes they're not reliable. You know, those are the bad apples. Actually, you know, it's everywhere. It it's fucking everywhere, and that's not only where I'm at, it's everywhere. That's the way that we're taught and I think these are people with bad communication skills.

Joe: 46:35

I learned my communication skills when I used to be in retail. When I used to work in retail, I used to hide from the people, the customers, but after six months into a year, went through, went by, I started talking to customers, I started talking to them, I started being gentle with them, I started to talk to them nice, how to get the items, what they want and all that stuff. I started talking to them and you know everything. That's how I learned and I had this skill since I was a kid, when I was like 12 years old. I used to read a lot, I used to like to talk to a lot, I used to like to write and like to write journals and trying to get to know everybody, just to be friendly.

Joe: 47:17

But it's always one person that's trying to knock you down. They're never happy. They see you happy and sometimes you're thinking you're doing the right thing, but you end up doing the bad thing. But when you do the bad thing you end up doing. You know, damn if you do, damn if you don't. You know, like I said again, I got no answers, I go, but it's already too late. I don't want no answers anymore. You know what's done is done. If that person doesn't want to talk to you, doesn't want to get to know you, doesn't want to get to know you, it doesn't want to follow you, and they unfollow you. Just leave them alone. They got mental issues. Okay, they have mental issues. I know what's going on with their heads and with their minds.

Joe: 48:01

I should be the one fucking getting mad, getting all over everybody. I should be the one unfollowing everybody on Instagram. You know, I should be the one doing that. You know the nerve. You, I should be the one doing that, the nerve, the fucking nerve, the fucking nerve. Wait, wait, wait, let's not take a photo. Hey, wait, wait. No, you know I should be the one fucking being mad at everybody because they unfollow me and Instagram and all that stuff, or TikTok and all that stuff. You know Well, like I said again guys, I'm done for today. I'm really done.

Joe: 48:59

If you have that same situation that I'm going through and I know I'm not the only one send me a message after the, my end of my show notes. You go to my show notes and all that stuff. They're gonna see a send message on there. Just send me a message and you could see my email thee talkers4us@ gmailcom. the e talkers4@ gmailcom. That's the end of my show notes. You could see it right there. You could email me or send me a message on my link on the, thee talkers. buzzsprout. com theetalkers. buzzsprout. com. Or you could, after you finish the podcast, you could see, send a message. Just tell me what you guys think and if it's happening to you, and explain to me what is it about. Why Do you need answers? I need to know, but for me it's already too late. What's done is done.

Joe: 49:54

You don't want to be my friend, fine Be it. Block you. You're not existing anymore. You're out of my control. I don't know you anymore. I don't even know who you are anymore. That's who I am. That's what I'm going to do and that's what I just did. Plain and simple, that's it. You're just did. Plain and simple, that's it. You're done. You unfollowed me. You blocked me. I don't know you anymore. I know I don't even know your existence anymore. I know I sound angry, but you did. You're the ones are angry, not me. You blocked me. You unfollow me. You guys are angry. You giving me a reason why to be angry, you know. So.

Joe: 50:30

This is Thee Talkers Podcast Unscripted. My name is joe. If you want to support our show and subscribe, it's only three dollars a month. You could cancel any time. You could google us and type in the talkers podcast unscripted and go directly to our link theetalkers. buzzsprout. com. We're all podcast platforms like Amazon Music, iheartradio, apple Podcasts and YouTube Music. And all I can say guys, be strong out there, put your shield on, protect your feelings, do not let them out. That's what they want. No-transcript. Maybe that's why they.